Polyamory & ENM Affirming Therapy in Phoenix
Your relationship structure isn't automatically the problem.
You shouldn't have to spend the first half of every session explaining polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, or your relationship structure—and you definitely shouldn't have to defend it. Here, it's already understood. That means we can get straight to what actually brought you to therapy.
This might be for you if…
Maybe you searched for a polyamory therapist in Phoenix, an ENM therapist in Arizona, or a poly-friendly therapist near you — and you keep finding profiles that feel clinical, cautious, or quietly unsure about the way you do relationships.
You shouldn't have to translate your life into a language your therapist can understand before you get real support. Whether you're happily practicing ENM, newly exploring it, opening an existing relationship, renegotiating agreements, or just trying to figure out if non-monogamy is right for you — there's room for that here.
You don't have to be in crisis to deserve a therapist who gets it. Sometimes you just want a place where your relationship structure isn't the thing being fixed — so you can actually talk about jealousy, boundaries, communication, transitions, family, identity, or whatever else is really going on.
Whatever you're carrying, you don't have to carry it alone.
Not the kind of therapy where you have to perform.
Therapy doesn't have to feel like sitting across from someone who silently analyzes you while you wonder what they're thinking. It can be warm, conversational, honest, and a little bit human.
I bring clinical training and 15+ years of social work experience into the room, but I'm also a person. I'll ask questions, reflect back what I notice, challenge you when it's helpful, and laugh with you when the moment calls for it.
You can be messy, uncertain, defensive, or in love with multiple people. You can talk about sex, boundaries, jealousy, heartbreak, compersion, or the weird way your family asks about your dating life. You don't have to sanitize your relationships or pretend they're neat and tidy to make them palatable here.
No therapy performance required. Just you, me, and whatever's actually going on.
All relationship structures belong here.
This is a space for people in polyamorous, open, ethically non-monogamous, and consensually non-monogamous relationships — as well as anyone curious, questioning, or in transition. You don't have to explain why non-monogamy is valid, justify your agreements, or pretend your relationships are simpler than they are.
I'm deeply committed to providing relationship-structure-affirming therapy. That means polyamory, ENM, and open relationships are never treated as the problem, the symptom, or the thing therapy is supposed to fix. If you're happy and thriving, that doesn't need to be pathologized. If you're struggling, we'll look at what's actually hard — not assume it's your relationship model.
You might be here to work through jealousy, communication, boundaries, transitions, or heartbreak. You might be processing what it means to open your relationship, close it, or change its shape. You might just want a therapist who knows the difference between a metamour and a partner without a vocabulary lesson. Whatever brings you in, your relationship structure is respected as part of your life — not a mistake to correct.
Oak & Wave is also LGBTQ+ affirming, and I welcome queer, trans, and gender-diverse clients across every relationship configuration. Your identity and your relationships can both exist in the room without being treated as the reason you're in therapy.
15+ years of social work experience. Real-world perspective. Zero judgment.
Heather Wheeler, LCSW has been working in the field of social work since 2010. That experience matters — but not because it means sitting across from you with a clipboard and a clinical stare. It means she's had the time, training, and real-world exposure to walk with people through complex relationships, hard transitions, and tender conversations without losing the human connection at the center of it all.
More About HeatherIn-person therapy in Phoenix, Arizona.
Oak & Wave Counseling is located in central Phoenix, offering in-person polyamory and ENM affirming therapy in the Phoenix area and secure telehealth for clients across Arizona.
Address:
3101 N. Central Ave, Suite 0174
Phoenix, AZ 85012
Sessions are built around your needs — whether that means weekly in-person appointments, telehealth from the comfort of your home, or a mix that fits your life.
3101 N. Central Ave, Suite 0174
Phoenix, AZ 85012
Secure video sessions available throughout Arizona.
Available by appointment when video isn't the right fit.
Common Questions About Polyamory & ENM Therapy
Do you treat non-monogamy as the problem?
No. Your relationship structure isn't automatically the issue. We work on what you actually bring in — communication, jealousy, boundaries, time and energy, repair, or a specific decision you're weighing.
Do you work with individuals or only partners?
Both. I work with individuals exploring or navigating non-monogamy, as well as couples and partners who want a space to talk things through together.
What if we're still deciding whether to open our relationship?
That's a common place to start. We can slow the conversation down, name what each person actually wants and fears, and look at agreements honestly rather than rushing toward a yes or no.
Are you familiar with polyamory and ENM language?
Yes. You won't need to explain terms like polyamory, ENM, hierarchy, nesting partner, or relationship anarchy before we can get to work.
Do you offer telehealth across Arizona?
Yes. Secure video sessions are available anywhere in Arizona, and in-person sessions are available at my central Phoenix office at 3101 N. Central Ave, Suite 0174.
Come as you are.
You don't need to have the right words or a neat story. You just need to be curious enough to start. I'll meet you there.